Romans 8:26

Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not
know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit
Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot
be uttered.

NKJ
About 6 years ago or so, I am not good with time passed, my wife and I divorced. It was my fault, I was living a lie, and pretending I was a christian while doing non christian things. I was using her, and manipulating her. She filed for divorce, and looking back, I do understand. But when I moved before the divorce was final, it hit me what I had done. I remember sitting on the bed at this "Extended Stay Hotel" and crying, bawling, snot running down my cheek, just crying. I would have cried out to God, if I had known what to say. I would start to say: "Oh God....." and then just cry some more. I told Him how sorry I was that I had allowed "it" to come to this., I would confess, then I would just cry. Here I am about 6 years later, and just thinking about it makes me tear up again. I was so weak that day, I went to work, but was pretty useless. I did not talk to any of my co workers, I did not say any thing more then I had to. Inside I was still crying. I could not cry out to God, because I had sinned, I had done wrong, and now was feeling the effect of my sin. I was the problem, I was at a point where I could not do anything but cry. Sure, I was devastated, but I had made choices and had to live with them. God, the Father, God the Spirit and God the Son all came to me over the next few months and comforted me. They knew exactly what I was feeling, and knew what I needed. It was not, and still is not, easy. Sometimes I get all sad, depressed, and lonely. But you know what? God still answers my prayers, He still comforts me, He still sends my friends my way, maybe just a text message of: "Hey, how ya doing, just thinking about you. We need to get together for lunch, how about Thursday?" You see, God KNOWS. He knows because His Spirit is active in this World, going to and fro and reporting back to the Father. But I had to confess to Him my sins, I had to show Him that I was truly sorry and not just sorry I got caught. I had to do a "180" and start living for Him and not for myself. Something I still struggle with daily.

As Romans 8.26 tells us above: ...."the Spirit also helps in our weakness. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered." What does that mean? It means that when we do not know what to say , we cannot do anything but cry, we are so devastated we are just in a state of mind, a weakness, hurt, feeling alone.....that the Spirit of God will intercede for us with "groanings" which cannot be uttered. Groanings that cannot be uttered, wow that is confussing, isn't it? How can you "groan" something that cannot be uttered? You see, I believe, the Spirit of God, part of the trinity of who God is, has a way of communicating with The Father and the Son that is not understandable to us. (They are the same person, three in one and all that:)) We don't know how to express our hurt, our sadness, our guilt, our problems, we just HURT. The Spirit of God (The Holy Spirit) intercedes for us and tells God and His son, exactly what we are feeling, even though we do not realize it. He, the Spirit, knows what we need, He knows what we are feeling, He knows what we did, and how we feel about it. When you are in this situation, you are weak, very weak, emotionally, spiritually, even physically. The Spirit of God approaches the Father on our behalf, and requests what we need right then. This works just like when the Son, Jesus, approaches the throne of God on our behalf and requests our sins be washed away when we ask, by the power of His blood on the cross.

Do you realize what this means? God wants us to ask Him for the things we need, He WILL answer. He also wants us to ask for the things we want, sometimes, and He will, not always, not everything we want, but He will give us the "desires of our heart". BUT, more importantly, when we do not know what to ask for, when we are in such a state that we can only cry, and FEEL hurt, pain, remorse, did I mention PAIN? His Spirit comes and not only comforts, but "Groans" our "groans" and approaches the throne of God the Father on our behalf and tells Him exactly what we are feeling, and what we need. God knows what we are feeling even when we do not. God made us, so He knows our emotions. He knows when these emotions overwhelm us. He knows what we feel, He knows when we are feeling such remorse, such shame, such stupidity. He also knows when others hurt us, the pain we feel. He suffered terribly on the cross, His closest friends turned their backs on Him. He knows the feelings we have, personally.

I love that last line of Romans 8:26: ".....Groanings which cannot be uttered". This is a statement only God could make. It does not make any sense to us, it is impossible to groan something or say something that cannot be said. But not with God.

How can anyone live without God? I have in the past, and look what a mess I made of my life. BUT when I turned and started relying on Him, my life changed. Yes, I still struggle, as we all do, but I have a advocate to approach the throne of God on my behalf, and argue my case, when I ask Him to.

If your going through something today, and you don't even know what to say, or to ask for. Just "Groan" cry, yell, ask......God. He'll get the message. AND He will know what to do.